motivation and fitness
Wanting to binge means: Stop, slow down, be curious about why food
seems to be the answer to everything. Wanting to binge is a way to get
your own attention. When you want to binge, it’s as if you were
jumping up and down with a banner that says, “I need you to notice me
So go ahead. Notice yourself. Be kind. Be tender. Be curious. You’ll
be surprised at what happens.
Trust me—it’ll be good.)
The next time you want to succumb to binge eating, tell yourself that
you’re going to take 3 minutes—only 3—to be with yourself before you
eat. Then, sit down, breathe a few times, and with as much kindness as
you can muster, ask yourself gently what is going on. What do you
need? Whom do you need it from? What would be the kindest thing you
could do for yourself now?
If you still want to eat after you’ve done this, notice how the food
tastes in your mouth. Notice how you feel after you’ve eaten. Ask
yourself if eating felt kind.
…compulsive eating is basically a refusal to be fully alive. No matter what we weigh, those of us who are compulsive eaters have anorexia of the soul. We refuse to take in what sustains us. We live lives of deprivation. And when we can’t stand it any longer, we binge. The way we are able to accomplish all of this is by the simple act of bolting — of leaving ourselves — hundreds of times a day…..
Compulsive eating is only the symptom; believing that you are not worth your own love is the problem.
Go for the love. You will never be sorry Geneen Roth